Listen up; it’s time to become a better dog owner for your Cavapoo, Labrador, or whatever breed you have. This article is pointing directly at you, the one feeling sorry for themselves and thinking of giving up on their dog. Yes, you, the grown adult who decided to get the dog in the first place.
Don’t blame the kids, christmas, window cleaner or anyone else — you made the decision, so quit the moaning, slap yourself across the face and pay attention to what you are about to read.
Why?
Because your dog deserves the best. It really is that simple.
Whether it was your child’s persuasive slideshow of adorable puppies, a decision made after one too many drinks, or a well-thought-out plan that underestimated the effort involved, you took on this responsibility.
So, embrace it and commit to being the best dog owner you can be.
Seriously, it’s your responsibility to do the right thing. The rewards will come once you do.
(Talking about doing the right thing, share this article as much as possible. Hit the share button, copy the link, whatever; get it spread on socials, emails, texts messages, and let’s wake a few people up who think it’s okay to abandon dogs because they have to pick up the poo or deal with hair shedding or a smell in the home).
All the problems you/they are experiencing, such as barking, chewing, pulling on the lead, peeing in the home, and jumping up on your friends, can be overcome.
Because most of the time, the stress of having a dog is simply puppy behaviour. You didn’t think it would be all belly rubs and Instagram photo opportunities did you?
Sidenote: If you read this before you become a puppy owner, then research how to know if getting a dog is a good idea before saying yes, because if you do say yes, you will need to own it too; otherwise, this article will be for you, in the future.
For those who are finding it challenging — it’s tough, but you can do it. Keep reading on and make a decision to get better at owning your dog. You don’t have to give them up! You can and will get through the challenging period and learn to love your pooch like a family member.
I’m about to show you how to do this.
I will break through your excuses and show you the way, so grab a hot drink (or cold) and read every word.
Because this is for you.
Yes, you!
And it could change your life.
Let’s get started.
Only A Select Few Owners Have Genuine Reasons To Give Up On A Dog (It’s Probably Not You)
According to The Independent, 1 in 10 dogs are given up by their owners. They state multiple reasons, from lack of homeworking opportunities to being too expensive. However, many people abandon dogs because they underestimate the work and dedication dogs (especially puppies) need.
Here’s what typically happens.
Within three to six months, they will write a post on Facebook stating that they are looking for someone to buy their dog at a reduced rate. Or, they will contactva family member and ask if they want the dog.
Is that you?
Hold fire if it is!
All you (probably) need is guidance and the motivation to knuckle down and finish what you started. Yes, it’s hard and tiring and can get you down, but it won’t always be like this.
We have a Cavapoo, and by six months old, he had chewed four beds, doors, clothes, and just about peed and pooped in every place, including on my pillow! He cries whenever I leave the house and jumps over strangers on walks. He literally had me pulling my hair out. Then came the fussy eating, digging in the garden and chewing on leads. The lead chewing has only just stopped at eighteen months old, but besides this, he is now a lot easier to manage.
I’m saying this to point out that although he drove me insane sometimes (often), I had to get on with it because he is part of the family. I brought him into the family, and it was my duty to act like a good dog parent and ride out the hard-working stages.
You probably should, too.
I say probably because there is only a tiny percentage who have a genuine reason to give them up, and that’s those with health issues, genuine financial problems, and those whose mental health is being affected by having a dog.
If that’s you, fair enough.
Contact the RSPCA for advice and seek help from dog charities like Battersea or BlueCross. In addition, contact a family member, friend or doctor if you’re struggling. However, if you want to give them up because you lack interest or can’t be bothered anymore, please think twice.
It’s one thing to give up a dog for genuine reasons like those mentioned above or if they’re aggressive, but in my honest opinion, most people need to ride the wave for the first twelve-eighteen months, and things will likely improve.
The First Year Is Tough For Dog Owners (+ Relationships)
The first year is super hard for new puppy owners. You will sometimes be tired and stressed and dogs are not uncommon to cause strain in relationships. However, this is rare, and some studies suggest that having a dog can actually make relationships more robust in the long run. So, while it’s not all doom and gloom, it’s important to be aware of the potential challenges and work together to overcome them.
That said, the first year is, as mentioned, difficult at times, with potty training and separation anxiety being a couple of issues to deal with.
But, remember, it’s normal and okay to feel overwhelmed at times.
You need to realise that your puppy will only be a child for a short time and duruing that time they will go through the toddler years, which is likely when they will be mischievous and often naughty.
It’s a challenging period, but it’s also a time of growth, bonding, and learning for both you and your dog.
I remember once when my Cavapoo was around five months old. He had just had his first puppy cut (which wasn’t easy). He looked lovely and sweet, with his white coat spotless and smelling like fresh cotton linen. The day was dull with grey clouds, and the rain hadn’t stopped all day. I decided to open the back door to put some rubbish in the bin, and he darted between my legs and straight into the garden.
You might think, so what?
And usually, it wouldn’t be an issue, but the rain was torrential today!
Suddenly, I was in the garden, soaked in my socks, trying desperately to get him in the house. Arlo was having none of it, zooming around the lawn like a crazy Cavapoo on caffeine. He dodged around me, rolled on his back and after about fifteen minutes when I finally got him in the house, we were both panting like asthmatics. He had also left a trail of dirty paws all over the clean white floor — yes, muddy, dirty paws everywhere. I was livid and wet and spent the next hour cleaning him, myself, and the house.
That is just one example of my dog being a pain in the first year; there are many more, trust me, but ultimately, it’s part of the bonding, and you will laugh one day; this might sound strange, but you will probably miss it when they settle down.
What I’m trying to drive home here is that the first year will be tough; it’s normal. That said, let’s move on to busting some myths about giving up your dog.
Myth Busting: The Reasons For Giving Up On Your Dog
Below are ten reasons (excuses) people give up on their Cavapoo or any breed of dog. You may be familiar with some of them. Each myth contains a way to deal with the issue.
I Don’t Have Time For A Dog
Who does? Life’s busy, but pets are for life, remember, not just when convenient. Think of them as family, not an extra chore.
Overcome it: Set a weekly routine. Walk your dog while you run errands or involve the family in short play sessions. Every bit of time counts, so set a schedule and ensure everyone can help. If you don’t have time, look at the junk you watch on the TV, get up an hour earlier, prepare meals, and so on.
My Dog’s Too Much Work.
Really? Newsflash: all dogs need care and attention. It’s called responsibility, And it should be seen as a relationship, not a burden. Remember, you didn’t get an AI pet.
Overcome it:
- Break daily tasks into smaller bites.
- Again, share the load with family members.
- Make it a team effort; suddenly, it feels much lighter!
We Can’t Afford A Dog.
Budgeting is tough, but sometimes it’s necessary. Look for ways to cut costs without cutting love. Every dog is worth the effort.
Overcome it: Explore budget-friendly dog food or make your own. Consider DIY grooming and training (See YouTube). You can be creative and still give your dog the love they need.
The Dog Won’t Behave
Remember, if the dog is under two years old, he is still in the puppy zone. Dog training takes time; it’s not a magic solution. Patience and practice can transform a stubborn pup into a loyal companion. Give them the chance to learn.
Overcome it:
- Start with basic commands.
- Use positive reinforcement (treats help) and keep sessions fun.
- Celebrate small wins and watch your dog blossom. You could also investigate in dog clicker training.
The Kids Lost Interest
C’mon, really? Are you telling me you didn’t know that kids are fickle and that they wouldn’t give up on walking and picking poop up, etc.? My kids very rarely take the dog for walks; it’s left to me and my partner. That said, you could lead by example (pun intended). Show them commitment. Teach them about loyalty and responsibility and ask them to help.
Overcome it: Involve kids in dog care in return for something they want or need. Assign age-appropriate tasks and encourage them to bond through games. It builds responsibility while keeping the love alive! Fior example; you could pay them to walk the dog if money affords it. That’s another way to find more time for yourself.
I Don’t Have Space
You didn’t think about that when you got the dog? You thought they wouldn’t grow? This is a good excuse if you have had to downsize your home, but remember, dogs don’t need a mansion; they need your love.
Overcome it: Create a cosy corner for your pup. Daily walks and playtime outside can make up for the indoor space.
I Can’t Handle the Dog Shedding
As a F1b Cavapoo dog owner, I don’t have this problem, but if you own a dog that sheds hair, did you not do your research before getting said dog? Anyhow, even if you didn’t, it’s now part of the deal. But don’t let it drive you mad because you can handle this.
Overcome it: Regular grooming can minimise mess. Invest in a good pet hair vacuum cleaner and find time for daily brush sessions. It only takes five minutes.
Dogs Are Too Expensive
I’ll touch on this one again because it’s a common excuse. Yes, the costs of living have gone up over the past few years, and yes, costs can pile up, but it doesn’t have to break the bank to have a dog. Homeless people have them! Don’t let money scare you away unless you really are struggling financially — and I mean really struggling!
Overcome it: Create a pet budget, look for pet plans, seek help from dog charities, and ensure you have pet insurance. Plan and prioritise what really matters.
I’m Just Not Ready for a Commitment To A Dog
But you did commit when you got it. You’ll be surprised how much this thinking can change after the first two years. Stick with it and you will very likely see rewards.
Overcome it:
- Reflect on what you can commit to.
- Start small if you have to.
- Realise it’s about being there, even for the little things.
My Dog Won’t Stop Barking
Dogs bark, but if you’re complaining about them barking too much or if you’re getting complaints, you can do something about it. Yes, it’s not easy, but it can be overcome.
Overcome it: If your dog barks when you are out of the house, it probably has separation anxiety. If so, look online for some help. Books and courses are available to help with this and we cover this in the Cavapoo Compendium.
When You Really Are Struggling With Your Dog
After reading this article, if you’re still feeling overwhelmed and contemplating giving up your dog, take a deep breath. It’s okay to feel at your wits’ end; so many pet owners go through challenging moments.
I wrote this article in a specific tone to stop people from giving up their dogs, but that was aimed at those with poor excuses. However, some dog owners, as mentioned earlier in the article, will have real issues and concerns.
If that’s you, remember that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Reach out to a dog trainer or behaviourist who understands your struggles. They can offer good advice. Sometimes, a fresh perspective can make all the difference. If you’ve tried one method and it isn’t working, consider changing trainers or training approaches.
Also, don’t hesitate to step back if that’s what you need. Sometimes, we need a short break to clear our heads and reassess the situation. Consider creating a calm environment for you and your dog, and remember that your well-being is also essential.
You could also establish routines to help ease anxiety for both you and your dog. And don’t forget to connect with other pet owners — sharing experiences can provide support and new ideas (thing Facebook groups and forums).
You’re not alone in this journey, and many resources are available, like the Cavapoo Compendium, to help you and your dog find your way back to a happy relationship.
Final Thoughts On Being A Better Dog Owner
Ultimately, giving up on your dog, whether a Cavapoo or a German Shepherd, often boils down to excuses. Most challenges are typical puppy antics or normal behavioural phases that all dogs and owners go through. It’s part of the journey, not the destination.
But here’s the good news.
It gets easier with time, patience, and the proper support.
If you’re struggling right now, remember — many people are going through the same issues with their dog. Take it one day at a time, lean on your community and resources, and know that brighter days are ahead for you and your dog.